People must hold specific beliefs to reject you. You must believe the same to allow that rejection. You don’t need to return or trade insults if you don’t accept them in the first place. — "What you think and tell about me does not affect the image I have of myself. It affects the one I have of you."
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BE SUAVE to remember names Believe : eliminate negative self talk Exercice : practice makes progress Say : say the person's name Use : it in conversation (no abuse) Ask : spelling, origin, meaning Visualize : turn it into a picture associating face and item (ex: Mary in wedding dress) End : use the name to say goodbye
Link method of memory : associate item with next through a ridiculous picture. Works well for lists in specific order (imposed or chosen). Tips for pictures : involving you, striking / strong, ridiculous, screw proportions, avoid logic (not striking enough) Car shoe screwdriver fish bed pineapple telephone cigarette
Practical exercice Write out what you link pain to, for example: I might not succeed. I could fail. I might look stupid. I could be rejected. Turn that into pleasure: I will succeed, I can’t fail, I can only learn more about me and get another step closer to my goals. No one can reject me unless I allow them to.
6 tips for more mental toughness 1. Eat the elephant, one bite at a time 2. Vizualize success, vividly and in détail 3. Emotional control, 4by4for4 4. Non reactivity, examine your reactions 5. Small victories, see smaller and focus on little nice things 6. Find your tribe, your interest, your necessity