You live with the fear people might find out. Then you actually have the courage to tell people and they go, I don't think you are gay. It's enough to drive you crazy.

I thought, I'm out in my life, that doesn't involve my public life.

My sexuality is a part of me that I really like. But it's not the totality of me.

We must be able to inspire. That's my goal in acting.

I don't even like watching sex scenes in movies. I have a slight prudish side to me.

When I watched Ellen come out in '97, my jaw was on the floor. I thought, There are some people who break the doors down, hold them open, and some people who walk right through.

If I was 14 and knew some gay people, I wouldn't nearly have had the struggle I had. Our world is definitely changing.

You live with the fear people might find out. Then you actually have the courage to tell people and they go, I don't think you are gay. It's enough to drive you crazy.

I really never stopped thinking about Ellen, because I just haven't felt that kind of energy with anyone in my life.

I have to be asked, I guess, but I love the idea of marriage. I think it's beautiful. I'm such a romantic, and I always have been.

It sounds so trite, but my private life is mine.

I've had so many interviews where the last question is, Are you gay? I had to find very creative ways to say that I was gay, but that I wasn't going to talk about it.

I married him for a green card. We had a really great, caring relationship; it just obviously wasn't right for me.

I ran into Ellen at a photo shoot. She took my breath away. That had never happened to me in my life.

When I was 15, I changed my name legally. I think it was largely due to my struggle about being gay. Everything just didn't fit, and I was trying to find things I could identify myself with, and it started with my name.

My feelings for Ellen overrode all of my fear about being out as a lesbian. I had to be with her, and I just figured I'd deal with the other stuff later.

I knew that I was gay, I knew it. I just couldn't see myself as a gay woman, even though that's where my heart was.

The most important thing for me was to never, ever, ever deny it. But I didn't really have the courage to talk about it. I was thinking, The people who need to know I'm gay know.

I had a hell of a time convincing people I was gay - which was so annoying!

People might find me attractive, but it's also my job to prove that I can be intelligent.

I saw Ellen and my knees were weak. It was amazing. And it was very hard for me to get her out of my mind after that. Then when I saw her that night, we started talking, and that's that.

I want to exude strength and intelligence.

Supermodels are over, and the new picture girl has become the television actress.

In high school I had sex with girls quite a few times. They were straight women who I convinced to jump in the sack with me.

I try to be feminine, yet intellectual and smart at the same time. You don't see enough of that.

I want young people to see me and think you can be feminine and smart and successful, all at the same time.

I was very sexual from a very young age.

I did a lot of fast talking as a youth; I was pretty good at it. I was never talked into it - I was always the one doing the talking.

I didn't choose the fact that I was gay, but I did choose whether to live my life as a gay woman-that was the terrifying thing for me. Especially being a gay actress.

I stumbled into acting and just loved it. I deferred law school-and I'm still deferred.

When I was anorexic it just seemed like I literally wanted to disappear. And now I would like to reappear.

I love being able to wear dresses and clothes that make me feel feminine and beautiful, and I love the fact that I don't have to all the time; I can wear a tank and jeans.

Everyone is their own kind of lesbian. To think there's a certain way to dress or present yourself in the world is just one more stereotype we have to fit into.

I justified it in so many ways. I had a very, very long and difficult struggle with my sexuality.

When you have the paparazzi hiding in the bushes outside your home, the only thing you can control is how you respond publicly.

Just look at all the awards shows now. It has turned into a catwalk. You have to be wearing a certain designer, a certain dress, and everyone's critiquing.

I'm living by example by continuing on with my career and having a full, rich life, and I am incidentally gay.

If you've looked at all the glamour magazines lately, all the covers are actresses. If they are on those covers, they are going to try to emulate models. That's just the way it is.

Most important, in order to find real happiness, you must learn to love yourself for the totality of who you are and not just what you look like.

This ring means that I choose to spend the rest of my life with you. I promise to love you in the nurturing and selfless way that you love me. I've changed so much since I've known you. Your love has given me the strength to be softer. You've taught me kindness and compassion. You make me better.

A team is where a boy can prove his courage on his own. A gang is where a coward goes to hide.

Courage enlarges, cowardice diminishes resources. In desperate straits the fears of the timid aggravate the dangers that imperil the brave.

I know that if I'd had to go and take an exam for acting, I wouldn't have got anywhere. You don't take exams for acting, you take your courage.

Necessity does the work of courage.

Courage is not the absence of despair; it is, rather, the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair.

More firm and sure the hand of courage strikes, when it obeys the watchful eye of caution.

The last thing a woman will consent to discover in a man whom she loves, or on whom she simply depends, is want of courage.

There has to be this pioneer, the individual who has the courage, the ambition to overcome the obstacles that always develop when one tries to do something worthwhile, especially when it is new and different.

The kind of beauty I want most is the hard-to-get kind that comes from within - strength, courage, dignity.