I see happiness as a by-product. I don't think you can pursue happiness. I think that phrase is one of the very few mistakes the Founding Fathers made.

All we can do when we think of kids today is think of more hours of school, earlier age at the computer, and curfews. Who would want to grow up in that world?

I think we're miserable partly because we have only one god, and that's economics.

Loss means losing what was We want to change but we don't want to lose. Without time for loss, we don't have time for soul.

If you are still being hurt by an event that happened to you at twelve, it is the thought that is hurting you now.

I know my own deficiencies, one of which is that I had lived away from America for such a long time. It's called expatriate.

We have to give value to authority. We have to give value to office, being in office, holding office.

As Plotinus tells us, we elected the body, the parents, the place, and the circumstances that suited the soul and that, as the myth says, belongs to its necessity.

I'm cautious about a lot of words.

We carve out risk-free lives where nothing happens.

It's very important for men to look downward, to the next generation.

Too many people have been analyzing their pasts, their childhoods, their memories, their parents, and realizing that it doesn't do anything-or that it doesn't do enough.

You don't know what you're going to get into when you follow your bliss.

When they talk about family values, it's in a repressive way, as if our American tradition were only the Puritan tradition or the 19th century oppressive tradition. The Christian tradition.

You don't attack the grunts of Vietnam; you blame the theory behind the war. Nobody who fought in that war was at fault. It was the war itself that was at fault. It's the same thing with psychotherapy.

We approach people the same way we approach our cars. We take the poor kid to a doctor and ask, What's wrong with him, how much will it cost, and when can I pick him up?

Depression opens the door to beauty of some kind.

It is impossible to see the angel unless you first have a notion of it.

It's important to ask yourself, How am I useful to others? What do people want from me? That may very well reveal what you are here for.

We need to work on the world so it will not be so oppressive.

Just stop for a minute and you'll realize you're happy just being. I think it's the pursuit that screws up happiness. If we drop the pursuit, it's right here.

I don't think anything changes until ideas change. The usual American viewpoint is to believe that something is wrong with the person.

Instead of seeing depression as a dysfunction, it is a functioning phenomenon. It stops you cold, sets you down, makes you damn miserable.

We forget that the soul has its own ancestors.

In the history of the treatment of depression, there was the dunking stool, purging of the bowels of black bile, hoses, attempts to shock the patient. All of these represent hatred or aggression towards what depression represents in the patient.

Whether we like it or not, men have more of the offices, more of the higher jobs, more of the seats in Congress. Men need to re-examine what their power is. We need to understand how to use it.

It's very hard to know what wisdom is.

The circumstances, including my body and my parents, whom I may curse, are my soul's own choice and I do not understand this because I have forgotten.

Psychotherapy theory turns it all on you: you are the one who is wrong. If a kid is having trouble or is discouraged, the problem is not just inside the kid; it's also in the system, the society.

I see happiness as a by-product. I don't think you can pursue happiness. I think that phrase is one of the very few mistakes the Founding Fathers made.

Sooner or later something seems to call us onto a particular path... this is what I must do, this is what I've got to have. This is who I am.

The culture is going into a psychological depression. We are concerned about our place in the world, about being competitive: Will my children have as much as I have? Will I ever own my own home? How can I pay for a new car? Are immigrants taking away my white world?

The word power has such a generally negative implication in our society. What are people talking about? Are they talking about muscles, or control?

I'm the result of upbringing, class, race, gender, social prejudices, and economics. So I'm a victim again. A result.

We're an air bag society that wants guarantees on everything that we buy. We want to be able to take everything back and get another one. We want a 401-k plan and Social Security.

We can't change anything until we get some fresh ideas, until we begin to see things differently.

Everything that everyone is afraid of has already happened: The fragility of capitalism, which we don't want to admit; the loss of the empire of the United States; and American exceptionalism. In fact, American exceptionalism is that we are exceptionally backward in about fifteen different categories, from education to infrastructure.

My suggestion is that there's no way out of the human condition. Sex, death, marriage, children, parents, illness. There's no way out. They're a misery, all of them.

Remember that in the early days of the feminist movement, they refused to have a leader; different women would just stand up and speak. The early feminists were very careful to not put what was spontaneously arising back in the old bottle.

The capacity for people to kid themselves is huge. Living on illusions or delusions, and the re-establishing of these illusions or delusions requires a big effort to keep them from being seen through. But a very old idea is at work behind our current state of affairs: enantiodromia, or the Greek notion of things turning into their opposite.

The moment the angel enters a life it enters an environment. We are ecological from day one.

We need to have an educational system that's able to embrace all sorts of minds, and where a student doesn't have to fit into a certain mold of learning.

If you are still being hurt by an event that happened to you at twelve it is the thought that is hurting you now.

To hope for nothing to expect nothing to demand nothing. This is analytical despair.

Economics is a slave driver. No one has free time no one has any leisure.

We cant change anything until we get some fresh ideas until we begin to see things differently.

The comic spirit masquerades in all things we say and do. We are each a clown and do not need to put on a white face.

Working mothers do an hour more per day than working fathers do and working mothers do on average an hour more per day with the kids than working fathers do.

Most fathers don't see the war within the daughter, her struggles with conflicting images of the idealized and flawed father, her temptation both to retreat to Daddy's lap and protection and to push out of his embrace to that of beau and the world beyond home.