And so, little by little, I gradually divested myself of pretty nearly all of the guest conducting I used to do, because I was at the same time working in the places like the Met, where I could work in this sort of depth.

Working mothers do an hour more per day than working fathers do and working mothers do on average an hour more per day with the kids than working fathers do.

And so, little by little, I gradually divested myself of pretty nearly all of the guest conducting I used to do, because I was at the same time working in the places like the Met, where I could work in this sort of depth.

There is no relationship between the gestures and what an orchestra will do.

My hunch is that probably men are doing more both outside the home and inside the home.

What's interesting is that both men and women are struggling with this issue in remarkably similar percentages, but the big difference is that women tend to talk about this when men keep it silent.

Art has never been a popularity contest.

If you factor in not just who's doing what at home, but how much more time working fathers are spending on work outside the home, on average they spend two hours more per day outside the home.

But the important thing is to lie down and fall asleep. That little nap means you wake up fresh again and can continue.

It wasn't that I ever knew I'd be at the Met for 20 years, or 30 years, or 40 years, or anything like that.

It was just that we had this phenomenal honeymoon relationship that just kept on going.

Everybody blames the culture without taking responsibility.

And, over the last thirty years we have seen men's participation in both housework and childcare has increased and women's have stayed at about the same.

They've really got to recognize that all of us bring some of our family issues to work and our work home.

It has to be able to play at the maximum expression and communication in every style, and the only way you can do that is - like Verdi said - working with a file, every day, little by little, until the orchestra's collective qualities emerge.

We do not seem to be finding tomorrow's Toscas.

I grew up in an era where an orchestra was like a treasure chest.

We're in the midst of an evolution, not a revolution.

Great cataclysmic things can go by and neither the orchestra nor the conductor are under the delusion that whether they make this or that gesture is going to be the deciding factor in how it comes out.

At my age, you are naturally inclined towards teaching.

Women tend to have recognition and peer group support - recognition from friends and family that this has to be a big issue in their lives. They're more comfortable expressing the need for support and receiving it.

When they are performing in front of the public, they ought to have a sensation that's relatively easy, if the technical and the interpretive work was done before.

I think this orchestra's strengths involve drama and voice.

The invisible dilemma is that men face the very real problem that they don't feel comfortable bringing these issues up and they tend not to be acknowledged at work.

I have a big problem with conductors who gesture a lot.

Where my tastes in music are concerned, I'm a real maximalist.

So, the total number of hours spent on the stuff you have to do to take care of a family, working and caring for stuff at home, the total number of hours is actually about the same for mothers and fathers.

A lot of people get impatient with the pace of change.

As major orchestras around the world are gripped in various kinds of crises and upheaval, we need to be sure that we are bringing up this new generation.

It's just that, when the orchestra look at me, I want them to see a completely involved person who reflects what we rehearsed, and whose function is to make it possible for them to do it.

More and more couples are having this negotiation or discussion, but I'm still amazed at the number who aren't and where the cultural norm sort of kicks in and they just assume that mom's got to be the one who stays home, not dad.

We found that when people put this issue on the table, it turns out that men acknowledge the issue, and employers and employees can work out solutions just as working mothers do.

Employee fathers need to step up to the plate and put their family needs on the table.

You try on purpose to get players with different qualities which will rub off on one another.

I was lucky that I met the right mentors and teachers at the right moment.

I can imagine wanting to work with this ensemble and this company always.

Second, if you're the boss, just because they don't ask doesn't mean your employees don't have needs.

I thought I'd write one book and the world would change overnight.

Most people treat the office manual the way they treat a software manual. They never look at it.

Were in the midst of an evolution not a revolution.

And so, little by little, I gradually divested myself of pretty nearly all of the guest conducting I used to do, because I was at the same time working in the places like the Met, where I could work in this sort of depth.

The New York Times published the guest list on the front page. The masks were a brilliant concept.

You know it's funny that none of the regular late-night shows now use guest hosts the way Johnny did. No one talks about it much, but it's curious that they don't do it. They would each have to be asked the reason why they don't.

I know what she used to do sometimes. She kept her best cape she wore on the street in there, and she used occasionally to go up there to get it and to take it into her room. She kept a great deal in the guest room drawers.

Perhaps host and guest is really the happiest relation for father and son.

But also, the guest workers program, it's quite often misused, meaning people could come in as part of a guest workers program and after two weeks in the fields, they'd run off to do every other kind of job that isn't covered by a guest workers program.

When I did the film Generations, in which the character died, I felt like a guest for the first time. That made me very sad.

Thom is one of those wonderful people to cook for because he absolutely loves it, just loves it. He loves to eat and drink and he'd be a great guest at any dinner party.

O, once in each man's life, at least, Good luck knocks at his door; And wit to seize the flitting guest Need never hunger more. But while the loitering idler waits Good luck beside his fire, The bold heart storms at fortune's gates, And conquers its desire.