Warren Farrell

Nobody really believes in equality anyway.

The rules of sexism do not free men from the terror of violence; they only keep men from complaining about it.

A man's primary fantasy is access to a variety of attractive women without the fear of rejection.

Once boys' and men's challenges are clear, the question 'why now' quickly becomes 'why didn't we see this sooner?' The answer? Virtually every society that survived did so by socializing its sons to be disposable.

Men are likely to be quite generous, especially financially.

People who work 44 hours per week make 50 percent more than people who work 34 hours a week.

In our society the sound of men complaining is like nails on a chalkboard.

Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.

I'm a great supporter of women who take risks and don't make victimhood into an art. It's not good for women, and it's not good for men. Too many men put all their emotional eggs in one basket - a woman's basket.

All women's issues are to some degree men's issues and all men's issues are to some degree women's issues because when either sex wins unilaterally both sexes lose.

For blacks in our society, victimization may be a true issue. But it isn't a true issue for women. Neither men nor women are victimized. The true issue, that I try to point out, is that both sexes suffer restricted roles.

It evolved from my experience in the fifties, growing up during the McCarthy era, and hearing a lot of assumptions that America was wonderful and Communism was terrible.

I realized that women's liberation is men's liberation, too.

Boys with a 'failure to launch' are invisible to most girls. With poor social skills, the boys feel anger at their fear of being rejected and self-loathing at their inability to compete.

I definitely agree with choices for women, but I do not agree with choices for women when they eliminate choices for men. Rather, I think that the sexes need to make choices that lead to the maximum amount of win-win for both sexes.

Is there discrimination against women? Yes, like the old boys' network. And sometimes discrimination against women becomes discrimination against men: in hazardous fields, women suffer fewer hazards.

Because of the feminist perspective, we have gotten a view of the world that is distorted.

I found that women entrepreneurs earn 50% less than their male counterparts.

Let's face it: men do a lot of things in the workplace that women just don't do.

If a man belittles a woman, it could become a lawsuit. If women belittle men, it's a Hallmark card.

We have been suckered into believing that, because there are more men at the top than women at the top, that this is a result of discrimination against women. That's been the misconception. It's all about trade-offs. You earn more money, you usually sacrifice something at home.

For example, the equivalent of a woman being treated as a sex object is a man being treated as a success object.

Feminists have confused opportunity with outcome.

Is there discrimination against women? Yes. There's no denying that the old boys' network is alive and well. But there's also discrimination against men.

The average full-time working male works more than a full-time working female.

There are 80 jobs in which women earn more than men - positions like financial analyst, speech-language pathologist, radiation therapist, library worker, biological technician, motion picture projectionist.

A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman.

I've always been motivated to stop people from doing dysfunctional things.

My wife's income allowed me to do what I really loved. I realized that women's liberation is men's liberation, too.

A woman with organizing skills can run a construction company without ever picking up a hammer and nail.

One can make a case that says that since 85% of children being brought up in single family homes are being brought up by women that about 85% of elementary school teachers should be males to balance out the feminization that the boys and girls receive.

Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.

Women are the only 'oppressed' group that is able to buy most of the $10 billion worth of cosmetics each year; the only oppressed group that spends more on high fashion, brand-name clothing than its oppressors; the only oppressed group that watches more TV.

A 2001 survey of business owners with MBAs conducted by the Rochester Institute of Technology found that money was the primary motivator for only 29% of women, versus 76% of men. Women prioritized flexibility, fulfillment, autonomy and safety.

The key to wealth is not what we earn. It is in what is spent on us.

When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.

The Myth of Male Power dealt much more with the political issues, the legal issues, sexual harassment, date rape, women who kill, and those issues were very much more interfaced with the agendas of feminism.

I've gone from being quite wealthy, when I was defending women, to being quite poor defending men.

Now, since I'm a husband and father, discrimination against women isn't just political, it's personal.

In America and in most of the industrialized world, men are coming to be thought of by feminists in very much the same way that Jews were thought of by early Nazis. The comparison is overwhelmingly scary.

Men make more money but have lower net worths.

You could make a case that women addicted men to their sexuality and then withdrew their sexuality until we provided them with a source of income.

Companies like I.B.M. have offered women scholarships to study engineering for years, and women engineers routinely get higher starting salaries than men.

I am always someone who follows the research more than my self-interest. It certainly has not been in my self-interest to defend men. I've gone from being quite wealthy, when I was defending women, to being quite poor defending men.

Men's competitive team sports focus on the balance between individual achievement and team achievement with the emphasis on team achievement.

I'm not saying that men make better fathers than women do mothers.

The women themselves say they're far more likely to care about flexibility. The men say, 'I'm far more likely to care about money.'

I don't have children that I've lost in a bitter custody dispute. But I see an enormous wound in kids due to a lack of their dads.

When women criticized men, I called it 'insight'... When men criticized women, I called it 'sexism' and 'backlash.'

Our main reasons for fearing males having sex with males is that you really had to construct a more powerful social role to keep men in their place than you did to keep women in their place.

Financial analysts make a lot more than accountants.

When a man is able to connect with his feelings, he is able to care more.

By starving our children of men, we have made them more vulnerable to the very abuse we are trying to prevent.

Choosing safety is a choice of life over career.

So long as you create laws that define women as victims, as creatures that demand protection, that need bodyguards, you are going to perpetuate the very worst of our sexist past.

I'm an awfully loyal friend. Once I've started a relationship with someone, it's like they are syrup and I'm a pancake. Their syrup gets into my pancake, so to speak.

Sexism is discounting the female experience of powerlessness; the new sexism is discounting the male experience of powerlessness.

The five different areas in which boys are in crisis - education; jobs; emotional health; physical health; and fatherlessness - are handled by different portions of the government.

Virtually every society that survived did so by socializing its sons to be disposable. Disposable in war; disposable in work. We need warriors and volunteer firefighters, so we label these men heroes.

Men have the influence and power in business and politics. It is the mother who can make the child's bedtime earlier, take away desserts or ground the child.

The problem is that Americans care more about saving whales than saving males.

So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny.

In the past we believed both sexes were born with original sin. Today, we have come to unconsciously believe in the original sin of boys, but the original innocence of girls.

Men have not stacked the decks against women.

I started to get very well recognized in the early seventies as the only man in the United States who had been elected three times to the board of NOW in New York City.

All societies that have survived have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable in war and at work and therefore as dads.

Feminists who say that I switched sides because I am an opportunist should know that exactly the opposite is true. It's cost me a lot of money. I've gone from being well-to-do to being $70,000 in debt. I have done something self-destructive financially. I could only do it because I don't have to support a wife and child.

Men are fair, and they have learned not to personalize anger - they can disagree with you and argue to the bone, but afterward they still consider you a nice person with whom the underlying human relationship need not be altered.

In fact, the socialization gives us the tools to fill our evolutionary roles. They are our building blocks.

Every movement has radicals. But the important thing is that the radicals are not the leaders.

While girls average a healthy five hours a week on video games, boys average 13. The problem? The brain chemistry of video games stimulates feel-good dopamine that builds motivation to win in a fantasy while starving the parts of the brain focused on real-world motivation.

Women and men look at their life, and women say, 'What do I need? Do I need more money, or do I need more time?' And women are intelligent enough to say, 'I need more time.' And so, women lead balanced lives; men should be learning from women.

Without husbands, women have to focus on earning more. They work longer hours, they're willing to relocate and they're more likely to choose higher-paying fields like technology.

Those who call me an opportunist are following the old rule: If you can't attack the data, attack the person.

Without children, men have more liberty to earn less - that is, they are free to pursue more fulfilling and less lucrative careers, like writing or art or teaching social studies.

I define power as 'control over one's life.' A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner.

Men move through a much different process before commitment than women do.

And then in 1956 or 1957 my family went over to Europe and I moved over with them, and immediately people in Europe thought my perspective on that issue was 100% correct.

It certainly has not been in my self-interest to defend men.

Options allow a woman to tailor her role to her personality, but if a man expects to provide well, he expects to wear a suit, not to wear what suits him.

Throughout my life I have always been amazed that people couldn't listen to other people, that they couldn't hear their best intent, that there seemed to be an enormous need to demonize.

Men don't oppress women any more than women oppress men.

After years of research, I discovered 25 differences in the work-life choices of men and women. All 25 lead to men earning more money, but to women having better lives.

And we reduce almost all male-female problems by working on both the female and the male. And that usually means having both sexes take responsibility.

The only men who aren't in fear of women's reactions are usually men who aren't born or who are dead.

The male corporate model is built on a man's greater willingness to be a slave of sorts - especially once he has to provide for children.

Mens greatest weakness is their facade of strength and womens greatest strength is their facade of weakness.

And with the rape, I was showing why the rape statistics are exaggerated, and saying that date rape was much more complex than the way feminists had portrayed it, as men oppressing women.

I don't think there's anything that is a greater area of discrimination against women today than the fact that nowhere in the world is there a female role model in team sports that more than half of a general audience would recognize.