"Der größte Schaden, den Abweisung verursacht ist meist selbstverschuldet. Gerade wenn unser Selbstbewusstsein seinen Tiefpunkt erreicht, kommen wir und schädigen es noch mehr."

Studien zufolge tut soziale Abweisung genauso weh wie physischer Schmerz. Das hat evolutionäre Gründe, da dies damals ein Warnsignal dafür war, dass sich der Stamm bald von einem abgrenzen könnte.

Es ist effektiver, zu überlegen, was man beim nächsten Mal besser machen kann, als sich ständig seine vergangenen Fehler vorzuwerfen.

Bei einer Trennung, einer Kündigung oder Ähnlichem sollte man die Fehler nicht ausschließlich bei sich selbst suchen. Meistens liegt es daran, dass die Chemie einfach nicht stimmt.

Um in einer Tiefphase sein Selbstwertgefühl wieder zu steigern, notiert man sich circa fünf seiner Stärken, sucht sich eine aus und schreibt einen kurzen Text über sich und die jeweilige Stärke.

Fühlt man sich ausgegrenzt, sollte man einfach etwas mit anderen Leuten unternehmen, die die Anwesenheit von einem zu schätzen wissen. So erinnert man sich daran, dass man nicht weniger wert ist, nur weil man nicht eingeladen worden ist.

I come from a coffee-loving family, and you can always tell when my sister and I have been around, because both of us collect all the dead coffee from everyone's morning cup, pour it over ice, and drink it. This is a disgusting habit.

Guns are bad, I tell you.

Believe it or not, I got into the charismatic, shady, sly heart of Sedgewick Bell by watching CNN and C-SPAN.

There's a definite responsibility that comes with being famous. You shouldn't be able to just dress up and look pretty.

One could surely argue that the Buddhist tradition, taken as a whole, represents the richest source of contemplative wisdom that any civilization has produced.

When we are well, we all have good advice for those who are ill.

The greater the kindred is, the lesse the kindnesse must bee.

I grew up reading Updike. I remember being alarmed to find that he had published short stories by the time he was 22. I think 'Pigeon Feathers' was the first collection of stories I read. Only much later did I discover his non-fiction reviewing and art criticism.

Unfortunately we - and I'm speaking not for Latin America but for Mexico because that's where I come from - we still, I think, are a little bit macho. Not that we only live in a macho world, but we also think as a macho world; even the women, you know? The women in Mexico, because that's the way we were raised.

With Star Wars fans, there's so much enthusiasm, and it's a completely different generation now.

People and organizations don't grow much without delegation and completed staff work because they are confined to the capacities of the boss and reflect both personal strengths and weaknesses.

For a boy or girl, driving cars that they love is fun.

Romance is important to me, and to have a romance with your husband takes a bit of doing. The key is to make sure your partner misses you. That means you have to take yourself away.

In the Spring a livelier iris changes on the burnish'd dove; In the Spring a young man's fancy lightly turns to thoughts of love.

I don't call myself a writer.

I wanted to show people I can do things other than the sophisticated bitch.

Friends are like stars they come and go but the ones that stay are the ones that glow

About two months ago I finished a gospel tour.

Time is water, and the Venetians conquered both by building a city on water, and framed time with their canals. Or tamed time. Or fenced it in. Or caged it.

A husband is very much like a house or a horse.

If two people have only one thought between them, something is very wrong.

I don't believe that intelligence can be reduced to a number, frankly. But I can see how doing exactly that produces a useful sorting mechanism in our society in order to separate children into categories of promising and doomed. The tests seem arbitrary and without real scientific value and yet have lasting consequences.

I think it's important that a director be able to know his characters inside and out.

An awful lot of thriller writers write women rather badly. So just doing it OK gets a lot of credit.