Liking/Loving tendency How it can be harmful You can ignore the real faults of the object of your affection. In extreme cases, affection can be so strong you self-harm to attain what is loved. Because you like being loved, you pursue paths that make other people admire you, rather than the optimal choice for yourself.

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25 Cognitive Biases that Ruin Your Life

In prehistoric days when we had to avoid getting devoured by lions, these fast heuristics worked pretty well. Now that life is more complex, the decisions you need to make are more complex, and your cognitive biases trick you into making bad decisions. By learning these biases, you’ll guard yourself against people trying to exploit you. Even better, you’ll guard against your worst enemy: your own

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Man is a “’social animal,’ greatly and automatically influenced by behavior he observed in men around him. I also knew that man lived, like barnyard animals and monkeys, in limited size dominance hierarchies, wherein he tended to respect authority and to like and cooperate with his own hierarchy distrusting others.

David Heath

“Extreme success of the ants also fascinated me— how a few behavioral algorithms caused such extreme evolutionary success grounded in extremes of cooperation within the breeding colony and, almost always, extremes of lethal hostility toward ants outside the breeding colony, even ants of the same species.”

David Heath

“In the ant’s case, the behavioral algorithms are few in number and almost entirely genetic in origin. The ant learns a little behavior from experiences, but mostly it merely responds to ten or so stimuli with a few simple responses programmed into its nervous system by its genes.”

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It seems obvious, to me at least, that the human brain must often operate counterproductively just like the ant’s, from unavoidable oversimplicity in its mental process.”

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“Man is easily fooled, either by the cleverly thought out manipulation of man, by circumstances occurring by accident, or by very effective manipulation practices that man has stumbled into during “practice evolution” and kept in place because they work so well.”

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Put one hand in hot water, one in cold water, then put both in the same temperature warm water. “Now one hand feels as if it has just been put in cold water and the other hand feels as if it has just been placed in hot water. When one thus sees perception so easily fooled by mere contrast,

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Being aware of biases is not a perfect defense. Charlie loves checklists.

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Bias 1: Reward and Punishment Superresponse Tendency Incentive-caused bias Self-interest and rewards drive behavior Behaviors are conditioned by prompt rewards given after an action. Once a behavior is conditioned, random distribution of rewards keeps the reflexive behavior most established.

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Poorly designed incentives will cause bad behaviors. In pursuit of his own self-interest, man will rationalize bad behavior. excised normal gallbladders. Did this surgeon think, ‘I can get some easy cash by fraudulently excising gallbladders?’ No, “he thought the gallbladder was the source of all evil.

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Bad behaviors become intensely habit-forming when they are rewarded

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Antidotes Don’t reward behaviors you don’t want. Don’t design terrible incentive structures. Fear professional advice, especially when it is good for the advisor. Learn and use the basic elements of your advisor’s trade as you deal with your advisor. Double check,

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“If you would persuade, appeal to interest and not to reason.” – Ben Franklin

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Bias 2: Liking/Loving Tendency Association fallacy Humans tend to like and love things and people, especially mothers, much like goslings attach to whatever is there at birth. People like and love being liked and loved. You ignore fault of and comply with wishes of the object of your affection.

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Bias 2: Liking/Loving Tendency Why it evolved Attachment to parents promotes learning and safety for child Reciprocal liking between people allows social cohesion

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Liking/Loving tendency Antidotes Put good admirable people in situations where people are prone to like/love, like teaching. Explicitly recognize your desire to be liked/loved, and control for that in decision making.Invert,always invert – what do you dislike most about an object of your affection? How can it go wrong

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Bias 3: Disliking/Hating Tendency What it is:

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Liking/Loving tendency Examples Like making popular but wrong decisions as a manager, or pursuing a respectable but dull career path. Advertising associating products with popular figures Warren and Charlie both liked Warren’s uncle, Fred Buffett, the grocery store owner,

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Bias 3: Disliking/Hating Tendency Antidote Invert, always invert – what can you find to like about an object of your hatred? How can you come to accept this object? What does the best case scenario look like? Respect your adversaries as people who are highly competent with many virtues, whom we will respect.

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Bias 3: Disliking/Hating Tendency Why it evolved

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Bias 3: Disliking/Hating Tendency How it can be harmful Ignoring virtues can further intensify dislike, causing feedback loops Rifts can progressively widen until there is no common ground, and agreements are harder to achieve. Judgments can be made without consideration of full facts

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Bias 3: Disliking/Hating Tendency Examples Negative political advertising, and treatment of opposing political candidates. When World Trade Center was destroyed, many Pakistanis concluded the Hindus did it, many Muslims concluded the Jews did it.Really, pick anything you strongly dislike, and see

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Bias 4: Doubt-Avoidance Tendency What it is:

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Bias 4: Doubt-Avoidance Tendency why it evolved:

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Bias 4: Doubt-Avoidance Tendency How it can harmful

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Bias 4: Doubt-Avoidance Tendency Example

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Bias 4: Doubt-Avoidance Tendency Antidotes:

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Bias 5: Inconsistency-Avoidance Tendency What is it?

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Bias 5: Inconsistency-Avoidance Tendency Why it evolved?

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Bias 5: Inconsistency-Avoidance Tendency How it can be harmful:

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Bias 5: Inconsistency-Avoidance Tendency Examples:

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Bias 5: Inconsistency-Avoidance Tendency Atidotes

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When people say, 'You seem so grounded; you seem so normal,' I think it's the way I was raised and the way my sister and I were brought up by our parents.

Trisha Yearwood

He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.

Benjamin Franklin

The longer your life goes on, the more death you face.

Patrick Swayze

If my mother knew I did this for a living, she'd kill me. She thinks I'm selling dope.

Henny Youngman

Don't believe what your eyes are telling you. All they show is limitation. Look with your understanding, find out what you already know, and you'll see the way to fly.

Richard Bach

The young think that failure is the Siberian end of the line, banishment from all the living, and tend to do what I then did - which was to hide.

James A. Baldwin

We can succeed only by concert. It is not, 'Can any of us imagine better,' but, 'Can we all do better?'

Abraham Lincoln

My childhood bedroom had wallpaper that was printed with clouds and rainbows.

Brad Goreski

I'm just gonna be real grateful to be on any freaking movie set for the rest of my life.

Peter Weller

There was a perverse side of me, with things like Van Helsing coming out. I didn't want to go down that route.

Terry Gilliam

The biggest surprise to people is that I sang background on Pink Floyd's 'The Wall' album.

Toni Tennille

Fifty percent of life in the N.B.A. is sex. The other fifty percent is money.

Dennis Rodman

I always love the holiday episodes, because you really get to see everybody at their best.

Rocky Carroll

Most often the music does end up in the movie, and sometimes there's a point where I wish that it wasn't, just because I think the score would be more effective if there was less of it. But, again, that's not my call.

Danny Elfman

Buildings are forms of performances.

Rafael Vinoly

On the other hand, I believe there's hope, because the breakdown and the repair are happening simultaneously.

Kathryn Bigelow

I basically have needed to go to the piano and give voice periodically to, you know - I'm always afraid to describe it as a kind of therapeutic process, but nevertheless it was a type of unloading that had to occur due to my personal life with my mother's health or just my professional trials and tribulations.

Rufus Wainwright