Thoughts & encouraging words for difficult times

He loved me. He loved me, but he doesn’t love me anymore, and it’s not the end of the world.

To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose is the next best.

For a long time, the fact that I was divorced was the most important thing about me. And now it’s not. Now the most important thing about me is that I’m old.

Healing yourself is connected with healing others.

I mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?

The moving finger writes, and having written moves on. Nor all thy piety nor all thy wit, can cancel half a line of it.

It’s much more interesting to try and understand what binds two people together. Why we stay with each other is much more of a mystery than why we don’t.

Everyone’s allowed to be in love with the wrong person at some point. In fact, it’s a mistake not to be.

When things break, it’s not the actual breaking that prevents them from getting back together again. it’s because a little piece gets lost — the two remaining ends couldn’t fit together even if they wanted to. The whole shape has changed.

You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.

I’ve always believed that if you don’t stay moving, they will throw dirt on you.

It’s no good pretending that any relationship has a future if your record collections disagree violently or if your favorite films wouldn’t even speak to each other if they met at a party.

Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either.

Hearts live by being wounded.

Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.

I think a spiritual journey is not so much a journey of discovery. It’s a journey of recovery. It’s a journey of uncovering your own inner nature. It’s already there.

Bad days call for foods that are bad for your butt.

What’s broken is broken — and I’d rather remember it as it was than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived.

I love to shop after a bad relationship. I don’t know. I buy a new outfit and it makes me feel better. It just does. Sometimes I see a really great outfit, I’ll break up with someone on purpose.

Being divorced is like being hit by a Mack truck. If you live through it, you start looking very carefully to the right and to the left.

Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer.

Some of us think that holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it’s letting go.

Recovery is something that you have to work on every single day and it’s something that it doesn’t get a day off.

One makes mistakes; that is life. But it is never a mistake to have loved.

I tell you the past is a bucket of ashes, so live not in your yesterdays, no just for tomorrow, but in the here and now. Keep moving and forget the post mortems; and remember, no one can get the jump on the future.

Don’t allow someone not worth it to have the power to occupy your thoughts. If they don’t find you worth the effort or the time, why should you waste yours?

Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.

What we wait around a lifetime for with one person, we can find in a moment with someone else.

Only time can heal his heart, just as only time can heal his broken arms and legs.

Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.

The dreams break into a million tiny pieces. The dream dies. Which leaves you with a choice: you can settle for reality, or you can go off, like a fool, and dream another dream.