We avoid the things that we're afraid of because we think there will be dire consequences if we confront them. But the truly dire consequences in our lives come from avoiding things that we need to learn about or discover.
What is happiness? Is it just the absence of pain and problems? Is happiness a goal that I can reach and what do I have to do in order to get there? Or is happiness just something that one may experience and in the moment when I start thinking about it then it disappeared already?