Lie6 : criticism of other people matter Most of us fear the opinions of other people when we simply think about trying something new. But public imagination is woefully underwhelming, and people have a hard time reconciling what they believe is possible with what is actually happening. — Here’s the truth: Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from. People will doubt you and criticize you no matter what you do. You will never know your true potential until you break the unfair judgements you place on yourself. New belief: It’s not your job to like, love, or respect me. It’s mine.
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BE SUAVE to remember names Believe : eliminate negative self talk Exercice : practice makes progress Say : say the person's name Use : it in conversation (no abuse) Ask : spelling, origin, meaning Visualize : turn it into a picture associating face and item (ex: Mary in wedding dress) End : use the name to say goodbye
Learn FASTER : Forget, Active, State, Teach, Enter, Review - Forget : your limitations, the world around, what you think you know ("beginner's mind") - Active : get involved, take notes, ponder, ask questions - State : get in a mood to learn, active, energized, bewildered, positive, link feelings to data
Link method of memory : associate item with next through a ridiculous picture. Works well for lists in specific order (imposed or chosen). Tips for pictures : involving you, striking / strong, ridiculous, screw proportions, avoid logic (not striking enough) Car shoe screwdriver fish bed pineapple telephone cigarette
Condition your mind for action and decision Avoid "I have to", "I must", "I have no choice but", "I can/ I can't".... Replace them by "I choose to", "I choose not to", "I decide to /not to" This switch of words will empower you more and help your mind acknowledge, accept, and provide you with a different mindset
Practical exercice Write out what you link pain to, for example: I might not succeed. I could fail. I might look stupid. I could be rejected. Turn that into pleasure: I will succeed, I can’t fail, I can only learn more about me and get another step closer to my goals. No one can reject me unless I allow them to.
Technique #4: Nonreactivity “Men are disturbed not by things, but the view they take of them.” — Epictetus We have more control than we think. We can’t control what happens in our outside world, but we can control our interpretation of it by reframing. Examine a thought. Discard it Reframe/replace it.
6 tips for more mental toughness 1. Eat the elephant, one bite at a time 2. Vizualize success, vividly and in détail 3. Emotional control, 4by4for4 4. Non reactivity, examine your reactions 5. Small victories, see smaller and focus on little nice things 6. Find your tribe, your interest, your necessity