-節節升高 通常會對你予取予求的人已經習慣這麼做了，所以當你下定決心要保護自己合理的權益時，他們還是可能會逼你順從他們。這時候，筆者建議你節節升高自己「自我肯定」的行為來因應。

「玻璃心」，為一網絡術語，用來形容容易就受到打擊，內心過度敏感的人。 該詞彙似源自台灣互聯網，從字面解釋，是用來形容一個人內心非常脆弱敏感，非常容易受到傷害，就好似玻璃一樣容易弄碎。及後該詞彙卻引申為別人不經意的玩笑，都能使他受到傷害，胡思亂想。

根據《生命時報》引述南方醫科大學心理系副教授肖蓉指出，造成「玻璃心」的原因很多，除了與生俱來的人格特質，家庭教育、成長經歷、社會導向等，都會影響個人的心理素質。

要學會接納自己、認清自己，面對自己的不完美，思考如何糾正它而不是回避、視而不見，才能獲得心靈的成長

不自憐自艾  自憐自艾，只會覺得「我受到虧欠」，感恩，卻讓人覺得「滿足、知足」。

不放棄主導權 這句話的意思是： 你該對自己的生活、情緒有所掌控，而不是把壞情緒，全都怪罪給別人。

不怕改變 很難，不表示你不該做。 人生中有些最棒的事情，是我們卯足心力、克服挑戰得來的。

不碰無法掌控的事情 生活中有太多無法控制的事情， 例如：塞車、下雨... 只要控制好 自己的態度就好。

不要處處迎合他人 只要你一心想要迎合他人，你很快就忘了做什麼才正確，只想取悅他人。

不怕審慎冒險 如果我們只冒自己最放心的風險， 很可能會錯過一些絕佳的良機。 一生平凡／一生非凡之間， 往往差別就在於是否審慎冒險。

不沉溺過去 接納過去，你才能活在當下。 接納過去，你就能釋出心力， 根據你想變成的樣子、而不是過去的樣子來規劃未來。

不犯一樣的錯 失敗，重新來過之前，先瞭解你為什麼會失敗，比較睿智。

不嫉妒他人成就 你努力朝著自己定義的成功邁進，並好好管控不安全感時， 就能在毫無妒忌下，為他人的成就喝采。 準備好自己，總有一天會輪到你！

不輕言放棄 挫折超多，學業、家庭、工作... 總是有新的挫折在等著你， 但別忘了，挫折 代表成長的機會！

不怕獨處 孤獨，是覺得沒有人支持你， 獨處，是 獨自靜下來思考。

不怨天尤人 別傻了～沒有人欠你，包含你爸媽也是！ 凡事，都該自己找機會。

不求速成 努力之後，並不一定馬上成效， 耐心等候、不斷嘗試，才是成功的可能。

訓練的兩個重點 要學習「自我肯定」，有下列兩個重點： -想法上的改變 -行為上的訓練

「自我肯定」訓練特別適用於缺乏自信、自我壓抑、人際退縮的人。這樣的人可能在別人借錢不還時不好意思提醒對方；被別人言語傷害時也不敢表達；別人提出的要求不合理時也不好意思拒絕；即使感動朋友給予的友情支持，也不敢說出內心的感受。

想法上的改變 即缺乏「自我肯定」的人認為——「犧牲自己，成全別人」才是正確的人際模式。這樣的觀念是錯誤的，需要做改變。「犧牲自己，成全別人」是一種雙方都受害的人際模式，「照顧自己，兼顧別人」才是一種雙方都獲利的人際模式。

很多人會一直順從別人的要求、讓身旁的人予取予求，主因是來自於恐懼感跟罪惡感。如果你有這種情況，必須好好想一想，為了那些莫名的罪惡感與恐懼感，你要犧牲自己合理的權益嗎？

你先照顧自己的需求，然後再兼顧別人的需求，這才是雙贏的局面。

行為上的訓練 -委婉但堅定的態度 -同理對方的心情，但清晰表達自己的想法

The whole 'Melrose' series is an attempt to tell the truth, and is based on the idea that there is some salutary or liberating power in telling the truth.

Our federal Constitution embodies the idea of modern India: it defines not only India but also modernity.

I've been all sorts of different shapes and sizes at different times in my life.

You may have a broken heart but you may find someone else.

My golf is so delicate, so tenuously wired together with silent inward prayers, exhortations and unstable visualizations, that the sheer pressure of an additional pair of eyes crumbles the whole rickety structure into rubble.

Women are used to worrying over trifles.

In a minimal interior, what you don't do is as important as what you do.

I believed that the husband takes care of the family, and the wife takes care of him, and they are true to each other. I know that sounds a romantic illusion, but it can be true.

People ask me who he reminds me of. The way he's playing, I'd say he doesn't remind me of anybody. I've never seen anybody - running back, quarterback, wide receiver - make the plays that Vince Young made today.

We shot a bit of 'Hunted' in Tangier, and you are in a very, very different world. It's very difficult to blend in over there.

You can't believe everything you read. I am only six foot three, by the way.

Dictators are ludicrous characters, and, you know, in my career and in my life, I've always enjoyed sort of inhabiting these ludicrous, larger-than-life characters that somehow exist in the real world.

Life is short, wear your party pants!

The hacking trend has definitely turned criminal because of e-commerce.

My singing is part of me, like my stoutness, or my light hair, or my poor eyesight.

Everyone should learn to tango in Argentina before they die.

I liked to watch the expression in the fighter's face change when you connected with him. You know when you connect in the right spot. It's like a tunnel vision.

When we blame all Muslims, all Syrians, or all members of any other group because of the actions of individuals, we fall into the trap of asserting collective guilt. We empower the narrow-minded ideology that we are trying to defeat.

Looking at someone in a deployed setting, it's not in their best interest to get pregnant overseas, but if it happens, it happens.

Film is pop art. It's not whether it's auteur cinema or not; that's a false distinction. Cinema is cinema.

I think the whole DVD craze has provided opportunities for material that, for those interested in it, explains the whole history and background in getting a film made, which is great.

Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them.

No human trait deserves less tolerance in everyday life, and gets less, than intolerance.

If we have learned nothing else from the 20th century, we should at least have grasped that the more perfect the answer, the more terrifying its consequences. Incremental improvements upon unsatisfactory circumstances are the best that we can hope for, and probably all we should seek.