訓練的兩個重點 要學習「自我肯定」，有下列兩個重點： -想法上的改變 -行為上的訓練

「玻璃心」，為一網絡術語，用來形容容易就受到打擊，內心過度敏感的人。 該詞彙似源自台灣互聯網，從字面解釋，是用來形容一個人內心非常脆弱敏感，非常容易受到傷害，就好似玻璃一樣容易弄碎。及後該詞彙卻引申為別人不經意的玩笑，都能使他受到傷害，胡思亂想。

根據《生命時報》引述南方醫科大學心理系副教授肖蓉指出，造成「玻璃心」的原因很多，除了與生俱來的人格特質，家庭教育、成長經歷、社會導向等，都會影響個人的心理素質。

要學會接納自己、認清自己，面對自己的不完美，思考如何糾正它而不是回避、視而不見，才能獲得心靈的成長

不自憐自艾  自憐自艾，只會覺得「我受到虧欠」，感恩，卻讓人覺得「滿足、知足」。

不放棄主導權 這句話的意思是： 你該對自己的生活、情緒有所掌控，而不是把壞情緒，全都怪罪給別人。

不怕改變 很難，不表示你不該做。 人生中有些最棒的事情，是我們卯足心力、克服挑戰得來的。

不碰無法掌控的事情 生活中有太多無法控制的事情， 例如：塞車、下雨... 只要控制好 自己的態度就好。

不要處處迎合他人 只要你一心想要迎合他人，你很快就忘了做什麼才正確，只想取悅他人。

不怕審慎冒險 如果我們只冒自己最放心的風險， 很可能會錯過一些絕佳的良機。 一生平凡／一生非凡之間， 往往差別就在於是否審慎冒險。

不沉溺過去 接納過去，你才能活在當下。 接納過去，你就能釋出心力， 根據你想變成的樣子、而不是過去的樣子來規劃未來。

不犯一樣的錯 失敗，重新來過之前，先瞭解你為什麼會失敗，比較睿智。

不嫉妒他人成就 你努力朝著自己定義的成功邁進，並好好管控不安全感時， 就能在毫無妒忌下，為他人的成就喝采。 準備好自己，總有一天會輪到你！

不輕言放棄 挫折超多，學業、家庭、工作... 總是有新的挫折在等著你， 但別忘了，挫折 代表成長的機會！

不怕獨處 孤獨，是覺得沒有人支持你， 獨處，是 獨自靜下來思考。

不怨天尤人 別傻了～沒有人欠你，包含你爸媽也是！ 凡事，都該自己找機會。

不求速成 努力之後，並不一定馬上成效， 耐心等候、不斷嘗試，才是成功的可能。

「自我肯定」訓練特別適用於缺乏自信、自我壓抑、人際退縮的人。這樣的人可能在別人借錢不還時不好意思提醒對方；被別人言語傷害時也不敢表達；別人提出的要求不合理時也不好意思拒絕；即使感動朋友給予的友情支持，也不敢說出內心的感受。

想法上的改變 即缺乏「自我肯定」的人認為——「犧牲自己，成全別人」才是正確的人際模式。這樣的觀念是錯誤的，需要做改變。「犧牲自己，成全別人」是一種雙方都受害的人際模式，「照顧自己，兼顧別人」才是一種雙方都獲利的人際模式。

很多人會一直順從別人的要求、讓身旁的人予取予求，主因是來自於恐懼感跟罪惡感。如果你有這種情況，必須好好想一想，為了那些莫名的罪惡感與恐懼感，你要犧牲自己合理的權益嗎？

你先照顧自己的需求，然後再兼顧別人的需求，這才是雙贏的局面。

行為上的訓練 -委婉但堅定的態度 -同理對方的心情，但清晰表達自己的想法

-節節升高 通常會對你予取予求的人已經習慣這麼做了，所以當你下定決心要保護自己合理的權益時，他們還是可能會逼你順從他們。這時候，筆者建議你節節升高自己「自我肯定」的行為來因應。

As a black woman who grows up in a predominantly white neighborhood, you learn how to perform a 'good' version of yourself. And then when you're with your home girls, you're saying all kinds of stuff that sounds all kinds of crazy, but you understand each other because you're speaking the way that you're comfortable with.

The best thing we've learned is when you are attempting to write a full song, write a full song that day. When we first started, we would have great ideas, but there's something about a moment and a vibe that's being created in time that when you return to it, it sometimes works, and it sometimes doesn't.

There ain't no genius here. Strategy in baseball is overrated. People say, 'That Weaver, he plays for the long ball too much.' You bet I do. Hit 'em out. Then I got no worry about somebody lousing up a bunt, I got no worry about the hit and run - and that's really overrated - I got no worry about base-running errors. And I can't screw it up myself.

I think every high school student who was alert during the early '60s got very embittered by the slow progress and the violence surrounding the Civil Rights Movement.

The seed of revolution is repression.

If you only share your best pictures, or your Facetuned self, the thought of people seeing you as you truly are can be scary.

A President's hardest task is not to do what is right, but to know what is right.

I definitely feel excited to be able to put really hard beats - like hip-hop beats - behind my music, more than I did before.

Its enough to indulge and to be selfish but true happiness is really when you start giving back.

I didn't even go to my prom. I didn't have one date in high school.

What the military will say to a reporter and what is said behind closed doors are two very different things - especially when it comes to the U.S. military in Africa.

Chart positions are for people with manbags who get to work at 11 A.M. because they've been at a digital meeting.

When you're serving at the local level, you have to build strong personal relationships to get things done.

There is a special bond between twin soul mates - unconditional love, respect for each other, bringing out the best in each other, and highly compatible.

By anticipation we sugar misery and enjoy happiness before they are in being. We can set the sun and stars forward, or lose sight of them by wandering into those retired parts of eternity when the heavens and earth shall be no more.

The code of the road is, if there is anything to eat, eat; if there is a place to sit, sit; if there is a restroom, go.

President Obama, through health care reform, strengthened Medicare. How did he do that? Well, he found savings by cutting subsidies to insurance companies, ensuring we were rooting out waste and fraud, and he used those savings to put it back into Medicare.

I'm kind of a private person in a way.

I'm not gonna do the same, tired, standard 'I was born in a log cabin...' kind of book. There's so much more I want to do.

Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations.

Let us unite on the safe and sure ground of fact and experiment, and we can never err; yet better, we can never differ.

For me, personally, Detroit is a melting pot for everything. We get the best from the East Coast, West Coast and down South.

One science only will one genius fit; so vast is art, so narrow human wit.

Sometimes sushi is just superb, and other times there's nothing like a great big steak. It depends where your taste buds are at the time.