想法上的改變 即缺乏「自我肯定」的人認為——「犧牲自己，成全別人」才是正確的人際模式。這樣的觀念是錯誤的，需要做改變。「犧牲自己，成全別人」是一種雙方都受害的人際模式，「照顧自己，兼顧別人」才是一種雙方都獲利的人際模式。

「玻璃心」，為一網絡術語，用來形容容易就受到打擊，內心過度敏感的人。 該詞彙似源自台灣互聯網，從字面解釋，是用來形容一個人內心非常脆弱敏感，非常容易受到傷害，就好似玻璃一樣容易弄碎。及後該詞彙卻引申為別人不經意的玩笑，都能使他受到傷害，胡思亂想。

根據《生命時報》引述南方醫科大學心理系副教授肖蓉指出，造成「玻璃心」的原因很多，除了與生俱來的人格特質，家庭教育、成長經歷、社會導向等，都會影響個人的心理素質。

要學會接納自己、認清自己，面對自己的不完美，思考如何糾正它而不是回避、視而不見，才能獲得心靈的成長

不自憐自艾  自憐自艾，只會覺得「我受到虧欠」，感恩，卻讓人覺得「滿足、知足」。

不放棄主導權 這句話的意思是： 你該對自己的生活、情緒有所掌控，而不是把壞情緒，全都怪罪給別人。

不怕改變 很難，不表示你不該做。 人生中有些最棒的事情，是我們卯足心力、克服挑戰得來的。

不碰無法掌控的事情 生活中有太多無法控制的事情， 例如：塞車、下雨... 只要控制好 自己的態度就好。

不要處處迎合他人 只要你一心想要迎合他人，你很快就忘了做什麼才正確，只想取悅他人。

不怕審慎冒險 如果我們只冒自己最放心的風險， 很可能會錯過一些絕佳的良機。 一生平凡／一生非凡之間， 往往差別就在於是否審慎冒險。

不沉溺過去 接納過去，你才能活在當下。 接納過去，你就能釋出心力， 根據你想變成的樣子、而不是過去的樣子來規劃未來。

不犯一樣的錯 失敗，重新來過之前，先瞭解你為什麼會失敗，比較睿智。

不嫉妒他人成就 你努力朝著自己定義的成功邁進，並好好管控不安全感時， 就能在毫無妒忌下，為他人的成就喝采。 準備好自己，總有一天會輪到你！

不輕言放棄 挫折超多，學業、家庭、工作... 總是有新的挫折在等著你， 但別忘了，挫折 代表成長的機會！

不怕獨處 孤獨，是覺得沒有人支持你， 獨處，是 獨自靜下來思考。

不怨天尤人 別傻了～沒有人欠你，包含你爸媽也是！ 凡事，都該自己找機會。

不求速成 努力之後，並不一定馬上成效， 耐心等候、不斷嘗試，才是成功的可能。

訓練的兩個重點 要學習「自我肯定」，有下列兩個重點： -想法上的改變 -行為上的訓練

「自我肯定」訓練特別適用於缺乏自信、自我壓抑、人際退縮的人。這樣的人可能在別人借錢不還時不好意思提醒對方；被別人言語傷害時也不敢表達；別人提出的要求不合理時也不好意思拒絕；即使感動朋友給予的友情支持，也不敢說出內心的感受。

很多人會一直順從別人的要求、讓身旁的人予取予求，主因是來自於恐懼感跟罪惡感。如果你有這種情況，必須好好想一想，為了那些莫名的罪惡感與恐懼感，你要犧牲自己合理的權益嗎？

你先照顧自己的需求，然後再兼顧別人的需求，這才是雙贏的局面。

行為上的訓練 -委婉但堅定的態度 -同理對方的心情，但清晰表達自己的想法

-節節升高 通常會對你予取予求的人已經習慣這麼做了，所以當你下定決心要保護自己合理的權益時，他們還是可能會逼你順從他們。這時候，筆者建議你節節升高自己「自我肯定」的行為來因應。

Not the least hard thing to bear when they go from us, these quiet friends, is that they carry away with them so many years of our own lives.

Vampire doesn’t see his image. Even less in the holy water.

The problem with comparison is that you always feel either better than someone else or worthless compared to someone else.

The unemployed in Greece can get a voucher and choose a training program somewhere in Europe to be retrained during this crisis and when this crisis is over, we make sure that that person hasn't fallen off the cliff and can come back into the labor market with new skills to find a job.

Ignorance is a menace to peace.

I'm a normal kid, really. I just love to act.

If somebody's not prepared to answer the question, you can keep asking.

Some people tend to believe that I'm a strong believer, a strong Christian, but that's not true. I'm not a strong believer. I'm very weak.

I hope that in my books there's an undertone of politics, basic tenets of how we should live.

People are hurt in love affairs and never recover, more than a boxing match.

I trip over my legs all the time. I'll wave to somebody, look up, and end up eating pavement.

In anarchy there is no automatic harmony.

Christmas albums are not something you do frequently.

A second reason why science cannot replace judgement is the behavior of financial markets.

And I don't feel any form of music is beyond me in the sense of that I don't understand it or I don't have some love for some part of it.

There is nothing about resilience that I can say that my father did not first utter silently in eighteen years of living inside a two-dimensional cutout of himself.

It's been said that I am the most widely read writer of the 20th century. The number of books I've sold runs into untold millions.

When I started running for Congress, it actually took me by surprise that so many people were fascinated with me being the first Muslim in Congress.

We love our planet Earth. We should - it is our home, and there's no place like home. There can't ever be a better place than Earth.

You listen to Handel operas, right? And there are a thousand of them, right? And they all sound alike. If I look back on my work, maybe it's the same thing.

I'm not sure I had the legs for togas.

Anybody desirous of success should spend some time in introspection and contemplation.

They don't know they're living in a glass house.

If Paul Ryan wants to talk about the soul of America, I ask him to look into his own soul. Because if he is saying we have no soul, he certainly has a hole in his. He needs to understand that every single person in this country has a right to expect that their government will take care of them in their greatest need.